My name is Tangela and I thought my only option was abortion.
You see I was 18 and within months I was going to graduate from High School. I kept thinking I can’t be pregnant this doesn’t happen to me.
Soon I found myself at Family Planning, I needed to find out if this was true and I really was pregnant. The nurse came out and confirmed I was pregnant.
My next thought was how do I take care of this problem. I had lots of questions and no one to ask. They did not take the time to discuss my options; they just gave me paperwork on each option. I still thought the best way to take care of this problem was abortion. I made the appointment and I found a friend who would take me.
I told the father of my baby that I was pregnant, and he said I needed to get an abortion. He was not having a baby. This was not in his plans and he was willing to pay for the abortion.
Before the date of my appointment I received a call from my brother who was out of State. He asked if it was true that I was pregnant, I told him it was true. He asked what I was going to do and I said I was going to have an abortion. He shared with me that he was against abortion and I should not have one.
That same day I met with a lady from my church. She asked what I was planning on doing about my pregnancy and I told her I was thinking about having an abortion. She began to share with me that she is a single parent with two young children. She said it has not been easy for her as a single parent but she is making it. She then said it won’t be easy for you either but you can have this baby and you can make it.
I was sharing with some of my family and friends about my pregnancy when one of my family members shared with me that she had an abortion when she was young. She said she has not been able to get over it. You never do. You have to live with that decision for the rest of your life. I then realized an abortion does not solve the problem.
A few hours before heading out to have my abortion I came to the conclusion I could not have an abortion. I decided I would choose life for my baby. I knew it would not be easy but as the lady told me “you can do this”.
My baby girl is now 8 months old. She is the love of my life.
If you are wondering what made me change my mind of not having an abortion; well it was the fact that I was told I could have a baby and still have a life. The fact that the baby would not ruin my life it would just be different. When I saw people celebrate the life of my unborn baby that encouraged me and it assured me that I was going to be alright!